urbanists.social is one of the many independent Mastodon servers you can use to participate in the fediverse.
We're a server for people who like bikes, transit, and walkable cities. Let's get to know each other!

Server stats:

552
active users

#kink

32 posts27 participants1 post today

My super cool friends are teaching a class geared towards those for whom CNC is relatively new.
They'll cover safeties, negotiation nuance to consider, the Why behind it, and lots of ideas on how to begin playing with it!

Class is 18+ for obvious reasons. I get a % of sales but I have paid to attend their classes before & truly think they're wonderful educators.

Tickets: forbiddentickets.com/events/pa .

Forbidden Tickets | When “No” is Not a SafewordForbidden Tickets | When “No” is Not a SafewordCNC - As CNC becomes an increasingly widespread topic of interest, let’s explore the different types, how to engage in it ethically and as safely as we can, and brainstorm ideas on how to begin incorporating it into your play.

This was a December special I wrote as a Saturnalia gift for my patrons back in 2019 🥰

#Dionysos wakes up with a chastity cage. Follow him investigate #whodunit 🔍

It was an experiment with chastity play, my first time writing anything like that. Maybe worth revisiting?

Art by @greypetrel.tumblr.com 🔥

eroticmythology.com/dionysos-s

@smutstodon #erotica #chastity #mythology #kink #indieArtist #indieAuthor

Erotic Mythology · The Golden Cage: Dionysos Chastity Erotica
More from Erotic Mythology 🌹

I often get messaged on Fetlife by people I don't know asking to meet up with them to play.

I don't tend to do this anymore because of covid, so I'll simply respond "sorry, I don't meet up with strangers".

Women and queers tend to message back with something akin to "I totally understand, have a great week!"

Men almost always message back asking how to "not be a stranger", or they start arguing with me that they aren't a stranger because we're chatting/I know their name/we both live in Bathurst etc..

But it's like... why are you, a grown adult, unsure how to not be a stranger to someone? Like is the concept of learning about and becoming friends with another person that much of an alien idea to you?

Also, I'm not a vending machine you pay friendship into until I fuck you - and I get the irony of this, seeing as I often fuck my friends.

Liebs wie Kinks immer nur Thema sind, wenn Arschlöcher der Community etwas ohne Consent gemacht haben, oder Vanilla Möchtegern Feminist*innen freundlich kink shamen wollen mit ihren "berechtigten Sorgen".

Ja es gibt Kinks die "krass" wirken, die Körper verändern, die mit Rollen, Schmerzen und mehr arbeiten.

Es ist aber Praxis das es in all diesen Kinks um Consent und Aufklärung geht. Das die Leute wissen was sie da tun und sich dafür frei entscheiden.

1/2

The next class my friends are teaching is "when no is not a safeword," a class on CNC.

It's designed for those new to CNC and will heavily focus on safety and how to do it ethically.

Tickets: forbiddentickets.com/events/pa

Disclosure: I get a % of ticket sales but I paid to go to their classes before & will continue to after cos they're awesome educators.

Forbidden Tickets | When “No” is Not a SafewordForbidden Tickets | When “No” is Not a SafewordCNC - As CNC becomes an increasingly widespread topic of interest, let’s explore the different types, how to engage in it ethically and as safely as we can, and brainstorm ideas on how to begin incorporating it into your play.
Replied in thread

Addendum: I did not only left behinde personal connections but I left behind my #queer community, my #goth community and my #kink community.

These are huge part of my identity, these communities make me strife. Leaving meta platform is now cutting ties again.

The Fediverse™ failed to welcome new communities, to welcome different ways of using it. Social networks are about community. We failed 😞.