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#boundaries

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Ms. Que Banh

Tomorrow, after work, I'll be posting some info on the dangers of #EmotionalAffairs & how blurred boundaries can often lead to unnecessary drama when one person opts to cease #dysfunctional #relationships & try to establish healthier #boundaries.

I've been on 3 different sides of emotional affairs, over decades of my adult life & know how to recognize them. I got myself help for my own emotional immaturity shit in that arena, years ago.

Many folks still don't really know how to spot emotional affairs. They damage multiple relationships at the same time. They're unhappy with their own relationship but won't leave them. I feel sorry for clueless longtime partners because no one really deserves being treated like they don't really exist by their own longtime partner.

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Ms. Que Banh

I've been doing more healing work to recover from being abusively #blindsided by a jealous woman who I have never even met but had attempted to psychologically #blackmail my companion, after faking being nice to me. I never expected to be #suckerpunched by a woman I've never even met in person. It shook me. It traumatized me. It was NOT OK.

Never ever defend #abusive people who have violated #boundaries multiple times & harmed multiple people, intentionally.

A quote on a gray background that reads, "When it comes to abusive behavior, if they know to hide it, they know it's wrong. If they don't do it in front of other people, they know how to control it." The quote is attributed to graceisunderfire and @the_traumacoach ~ Melissa Lloyd.
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WIST Quotations

A quotation from Nassim Nicholas Taleb

Categorizing is necessary for humans, but it becomes pathological when the category is seen as definitive, preventing people from considering the fuzziness of boundaries, let alone revising their categories.

Nassim Nicholas Taleb (b. 1960) Lebanese-American essayist, statistician, risk analyst, aphorist
The Black Swan, Part 1, ch. 1 “The Apprenticeship of an Empirical Skeptic” (2007)

Sourcing, notes: wist.info/taleb-nassim-nichola…

#quote#quotes#quotation
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Court Cantrell prefers not to

It's Monday. Hope y'all are having a day! ("Have a good day" seems like a lot of pressure in these times.)

I wrote a thing about
euphemism
the Left
doge
Musk
the destruction of the commons
and trauma.

Here's the first part:
the Lack in the Left
courtcan.com/2025/04/10/the-la

#euphemism
#theLeft
#doge
#ElonMusk
#theOther
#theLack
#thePublic
#theCommons
#trauma
#boundaries

courtcan.comthe Lack in the Left – Courtney Cantrell's COURT CAN WRITE
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daieno bika

How to make friends with ponies in 3 easy steps:

  1. Put out the hay in multiple piles so the ponies have choices.

  2. Sit next to a hay pile like you’re having a picnic.

  3. When the ponies come up to share your picnic spot, resist the monkey-instinct to pat them. Sharing a hay pile may not seem like you’re doing much, but you came here for 3 easy steps, didn’t you?

Actually, the ponies find it pretty meaningful to peacefully share a good snack spot. That doesn’t stop Abner from rudely sticking his face in Abigail’s face just to see if she still likes him enough to tolerate his more annoying behaviors sometimes. Just like sometimes, I don’t manage to resist the urge to pat. And I see in their expressions that they would often prefer if I sat there quietly and kept my hands to myself.

A big black horse (Abigail, left) and a small flaxen chestnut horse (Abner, right) nibble hay off the ground only a few feet away from the camera. The field they're standing in is sloped downward slightly from left to right, and bordered by grey/brown trees in the background. The sky above is clear and blue.
The same view as before, except that Abner has stopped eating to stick his nose in Abigail's face. Abigail's ears are swiveled back a fraction to let him know that she is not thrilled about this development, but she's not bothered enough by it to stop eating.
#horses#ponies#boundaries
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PatternChaser

These might look #lazy, but are actually reasonable strategies:

- resist pointless #tasks to create time for deep thinking,
- set #boundaries at work to avoid #burnout,
- say “no” to tasks, resisting that we should always strive to #produce more,
- automate #repetitive tasks to free up time for #creative tasks.

theconversation.com/why-being-

The ConversationWhy being ‘lazy’ at work might actually be a good thing
More from The Conversation UK
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@wcooperbooks My #Armchair #diagnosis is that he is a #ShortDarkTriad or #ShortDarkQuad #Narcissist. It is more common to find them in the #CSuite set. Moreover, because he is wealthy, he has never experienced #Boundaries and #Limitations and if he did, the culture he is from taught him to ignore boundaries #ThinkOutOfTheBox #BreakDownBarriers #WINTHEGAME and drink the blood of his enemy's children out of their skulls while he rapes their wives.

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Crissy Geco 🇨🇦🇵🇭

(3 of 3) Your #relationships should uplift you, not drain you. Choose connections that nourish your soul.

You can be #assertive and #kind simultaneously when you address concerns like these.

A considerate and Emotionally Intelligent friend will respect and understand you (they may not agree with you) and they will try their best to accommodate!

I want to hear from you. How are you protecting your peace? What boundaries have you set? Share your wisdom in the comments! Let’s create a community of empowered individuals.
#Friendship #Boundaries

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JulietJFall

“Along the Line: Writing with comics and graphic narrative in geography”.

NEW BOOK out soon with EPFL Press, the result of my long & slow border walk, archival work, and painstaking drawing. Will be available open access & direct from the publisher. Distributed internationally from September via Chicago University Press.

(My comic “Bornées”, published in French, was first written in English)

Cover of book called “Along the line: writing with comics a d graphic narrative in geography”
Table of contents showing (in bold capitals) that there are three big chapters of comics, one shorter one, and three written chapters on fieldwork & research design / thinking visually about territory/ writing with comics.
#geography#borders#boundaries
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