‘Our moral intuitions about merit and personal worth are changing.’

an interview with Marion Fourcade about her book "The Ordinal Society" co-written by @kjhealy: https://news.berkeley.edu/2024/04/23/from-uber-ratings-to-credit-scores-whats-lost-in-a-society-that-counts-and-sorts-everything/

Dating shouldn’t feel like walking on eggshells.

The signs we often miss:
You’re constantly ‘fixing’ their moods
Your hobbies fade while theirs dominate
‘Sorry’ never leads to change

I stayed 2 years past the red flags—here’s how I unlearned toxic patterns (and what healthy love actually looks like).

Read when ready: https://bit.ly/42rKCSl

Boost if this resonates. #DatingAdvice #EmotionalHealth #SelfWorth

I think it makes sense that my worth isn't based on productivity, but for now, what matters is survivability, because that's what I am capable of learning to handle.

Been thinking about being and doing. Often when I waken I think of what I am going to do, and then judge myself on whether I achieved it at the end of the day. Are you a ‘be me’ person or a ‘doing’ person? Does it need to be a choice? Even if not a binary choice, is there one you fall into more readily?

#boost #poll #SelfWorth
I appraise myself by:

It’s easy to resist outwardly — to rally, to yell, to fight, to scream. These acts have power, even if they provoke more #resistance from our enemies, the cowards.
But inner resistance? That’s harder especially when your self-worth has been chipped away by the constant stream of negative societal messages.
https://buff.ly/JGTk9wr

158 Self Love Affirmations To Remind You Of Your Worth

https://attracttheone.com/law-of-attraction/self-love-affirmations/

Your wings are beautiful, you just forgot you had them.

It's time to remember.

A quotation from Horace

But there’s a class of persons, led astray
By false desires, and this is what they say:
“You cannot have enough: what you possess,
That makes your value, be it more or less.”
What answer would you make to such as these?
Why, let them hug their misery if they please.
 
[At bona pars hominum decepta cupidine falso
‘nil satis est’, inquit, ‘quia tanti quantum habeas sis’:
quid facias illi? iubeas miserum esse, libenter
quatenus id facit.]

Horace (65-8 BC) Roman poet, satirist, soldier, politician [Quintus Horatius Flaccus]
Satires [Saturae, Sermones], Book 1, # 1, “Qui fit, Maecenas,” l. 61ff (1.1.61-64) (35 BC) [tr. Conington (1874)]

Sourcing, notes, alternate translations: wist.info/horace/74804/

Mindfulness vs. Capitalism

you are valuable just the way you are
vs.
you constantly have to accomplish to be worth anything

be content
vs.
be unhappy, so you consume more

look at this beautiful nature
vs.
lets tear it down and build a mall

slow down
vs.
bigger, harder, faster, more dangerous

declutter
vs.
buy, buy, buy!!!

treat yourself like you would a great friend
vs.
treat your friends like enemies - everybody is your competition

accept yourself and how you feel and act in your situation
vs.
distract yourself with mindless entertainment

#mindfulness is #degrowth

Boundaries are an act of self-care and a declaration of your worth.

"Be the Bigger Person" is bullshit advice.

My bigness is not determined by my capacity to quietly absorb bullying, degradation, or abuse.

Here's my most recent blog post on OCD-Free: https://medium.com/@ocd-free/why-people-cause-you-pain-3f8f25a36bfe
#love #affirmations #spirituality #selfworth #society #selflove