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Lena Lopez<p>Hallo zusammen,<br>Ich bin <a href="https://anonsys.net/search?tag=neuhier" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>neuhier</span></a> - hab mit meinem "Alltagsaccount" schon ein paar Erfahrungen bei Mastodon gemacht und langsam war die Sehnsucht groß, eben auch mit Themen, die meine Kollegen nicht unbedingt mitlesen müssen, aktiv zu werden.</p><p>Freu mich auf den Austausch hier, zu Themen wie <a href="https://anonsys.net/search?tag=polyamorie" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>polyamorie</span></a> <a href="https://anonsys.net/search?tag=kink" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>kink</span></a> und <a href="https://anonsys.net/search?tag=consent" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>consent</span></a> vor allem im Bereich <a href="https://anonsys.net/search?tag=erotica" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>erotica</span></a>. Empfehlt mir gern eure Lieblingsprofile!</p><p>Ich schreibe und spreche meine Sachen ein, aktuell gibts die auf <a href="https://anonsys.net/search?tag=Fetlife" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Fetlife</span></a> zu lesen und zu hören. Bald dann ja vielleicht auch hier.</p>
ABY BUT IN ALLCAPS<p>I often get messaged on Fetlife by people I don't know asking to meet up with them to play.</p><p>I don't tend to do this anymore because of covid, so I'll simply respond "sorry, I don't meet up with strangers".</p><p>Women and queers tend to message back with something akin to "I totally understand, have a great week!"</p><p>Men almost always message back asking how to "not be a stranger", or they start arguing with me that they aren't a stranger because we're chatting/I know their name/we both live in Bathurst etc.. </p><p>But it's like... why are you, a grown adult, unsure how to not be a stranger to someone? Like is the concept of learning about and becoming friends with another person that much of an alien idea to you?</p><p>Also, I'm not a vending machine you pay friendship into until I fuck you - and I get the irony of this, seeing as I often fuck my friends.</p><p><a href="https://aus.social/tags/fetlife" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>fetlife</span></a> <a href="https://aus.social/tags/dating" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>dating</span></a> <a href="https://aus.social/tags/kink" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>kink</span></a> <a href="https://aus.social/tags/bdsm" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>bdsm</span></a> <a href="https://aus.social/tags/Ds" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Ds</span></a> <a href="https://aus.social/tags/Dominant" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Dominant</span></a> <a href="https://aus.social/tags/submissive" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>submissive</span></a></p>
ABY BUT IN ALLCAPS<p>Now we know why the Heard and McDonald Islands ended up with tariffs...</p><p><a href="https://aus.social/tags/USPol" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>USPol</span></a> <a href="https://aus.social/tags/US" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>US</span></a> <a href="https://aus.social/tags/USA" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>USA</span></a> <a href="https://aus.social/tags/Trump" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Trump</span></a> <a href="https://aus.social/tags/tariffs" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>tariffs</span></a> <a href="https://aus.social/tags/kink" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>kink</span></a> <a href="https://aus.social/tags/bdsm" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>bdsm</span></a> <a href="https://aus.social/tags/fetlife" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>fetlife</span></a> <a href="https://aus.social/tags/antarctica" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>antarctica</span></a></p>
ABY BUT IN ALLCAPS<p>It's interesting how it's always the men with the "LordMasterDivineDomlyGod" names who make declarations of how sadism/masochism works for everyone*, and when you question what they've said they decide you're the one being stubborn and ignorant?</p><p>Like, my guy.. my little guy, it's ok that other people experience things in different ways to you. It's really ok.</p><p><a href="https://aus.social/tags/kink" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>kink</span></a> <a href="https://aus.social/tags/bdsm" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>bdsm</span></a> <a href="https://aus.social/tags/Ds" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Ds</span></a> <a href="https://aus.social/tags/Dominant" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Dominant</span></a> <a href="https://aus.social/tags/submissive" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>submissive</span></a> <a href="https://aus.social/tags/fetlife" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>fetlife</span></a> </p><p>_____<br>* brought to you by the ever pervasive bullshit idea that sadists are naturally dominant and masochists are naturally submissive, because sadism is active and dynamic, but masochism is passive and receptive.</p>
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ABY BUT IN ALLCAPS

Him:
I'm in security. I'm a consultant.

Me:
OK, well I don't play with anyone who is a cop or works cop-adjacent, like in security companies.

Him:
Umm well actually it's finance security. I'm not a security guard

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1. You said security, my guy.
2. That's not really any better.
3. Still not interested.

#kink#bdsm#Ds
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Yorinde Cage

Schön, schön... bei #Fetlife stellen (anonyme) Organisator*innen eines Berliner Munches in Gründung eine Person, (die u.a. Übergriffe von einer Person aus dieser Orga/deren Awareness-Team erfahren hat und dies vertraulich ansprach), öffentlich an den Pranger.
"Wir glauben allen Opfern, aber [...]" diesem halt nicht, wa? Lieber ne Hexenjagd.
Kann eins so machen. Muss eins sich halt später nicht wundern, wenn der Munch als nicht safe gilt.

#Berlin#tateropferumkehr
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ABY BUT IN ALLCAPS

I run a local kink group on Facebook, and in November called someone in about being a chaser.. they decided to leave instead of engaging with the conversation about how chasing and the fetishisation of trans bodies is actually transphobia. After they left I attached a ban to their account so they couldn't rejoin and start shit because I had a feeling...

They've just tracked me down on Fetlife - 5 months later - and started drama in multiple groups there about it ("you banned me for no reason!"), posting in groups I'm in and commenting on threads I've posted in.

...but I made a mistake for banning them? 🤔

#kink#bdsm#Ds
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