I often get messaged on Fetlife by people I don't know asking to meet up with them to play.
I don't tend to do this anymore because of covid, so I'll simply respond "sorry, I don't meet up with strangers".
Women and queers tend to message back with something akin to "I totally understand, have a great week!"
Men almost always message back asking how to "not be a stranger", or they start arguing with me that they aren't a stranger because we're chatting/I know their name/we both live in Bathurst etc..
But it's like... why are you, a grown adult, unsure how to not be a stranger to someone? Like is the concept of learning about and becoming friends with another person that much of an alien idea to you?
Also, I'm not a vending machine you pay friendship into until I fuck you - and I get the irony of this, seeing as I often fuck my friends.